Sunday, March 22, 2009

Happiness is .....

Just the other day I was watching this movie about some rich lady who lives in a big mansion. She seem to have it all, lots of money, a nice house, a loving husband, beautiful kids and lots of time to do whatever she wants. Yet blessed with all this prosperity, she was still unhappy. In fact she was miserable.

Which just makes us wonder about what is happiness? Is achieving your dream happiness. Is having lots of money happiness. Or is happiness having the time to spend with your loved ones. If all this is is true then why do many of us are still unhappy despite having achieved our dreams, having lots of money and time and having a wonderful family.

I believe that happiness is a state of mind or feeling of contentment, joy, satisfaction, pleasure and peace of mind. I've read a book a long time ago. I was a book by Anthony Robbins. Anyway somewhere in this book it mentioned about the importance of having a positive outlook on things. That despite all the problems or hardship you might be facing, things will not feel so bad if you respond to it positively. He talked about how using positive words that you say to yourself can actually affect the way you are feeling or responding to a situation.

For me happiness is about feeling contented with your life. The feeling of gratitude that no matter how gloomy things may look, there are others in this world who are in worst situation, yet they can still be contented with the basic necessities of life. The poor people in Africa or Afghanistan for example, who have to live in poverty and hardship most of the time. If you compare your life with theirs then maybe you could appreciate your life and be thankful for what you have now. So instead of feeling miserable and hoping for something more and comparing our lives with those who have more. We should look to those who have less and be contented with what you have now.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't work to improve your life and financial status but don't let it be your main agenda in life that it rules your life. For what good is all that money if you don't even have the time to spend it with your loved ones.

Peace of mind is possible if we allow it in our life. We could be in the most beautiful places on earth, like in Maldives with crystal clear water, the gentle ocean breeze, the soft sandy beach with coconut trees and endless blue sky but still feel miserable. Instead of feeling happy in such wonderful sorrounding we are feeling miserable because we worry about work, or worry what are kids are up to or a million other things that you worry about. Yet you could be in the comforts of your home but still feel happy and contented.

It doesn't really matter where you are or what you have but how well you respond to life that really counts. You may be out of job or recently divorced or facing some major problems in your life. Yet if you respond to all this problems positively you might discover that things are not so bad as it seems. That there is pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and that having survived through all this hardship have somehow made you stronger in life and yes amazingly be happy and contented with life and the hope that future brings.

So till next time, remember that happiness is not only what looks good on the surface but also the peace of mind and contenment that you feel within. Look great and be happy always.

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